Thoughts Are Always The Problem
Updated: Apr 30, 2020
One of the things I like best about being a coach is the necessity of being coached myself.
I get to take my coach hat off weekly and share my struggles with a coach who listens, asks tough questions, provides feedback and quite frankly, calls me on my bullshit.
The time spent on myself helps me sort out what the real problem is versus what I’m making into a problem.
The funny thing is that, as a coach, I know all “problems” start in our minds, but sometimes I’m so caught up in my story, I can’t see things for what they are.
Simply our thoughts.
Yes, our thoughts are the origin of ALL our problems. Nothing is a problem until we make it a problem.
Until we have an opinion or perspective on something, it’s completely neutral. How we think about the “thing” or circumstance is all up to us and our brains.
Let me give you an example. Way back in the dark ages (just kidding, it was 1994), I visited New Orleans during Mardi Gras. I hated it and declared I was NEVER coming back here. I thought it smelled and was dirty.
Fast forward to 2006. My husband was working in New Orleans and instead of him traveling back and forth to Chicago, we decided to move here, ‘temporarily”. I arrived and found charming architecture, funky neighborhoods, good food, warm weather and the intoxicating smell of jasmine.
So what was different? Lots of things of course, but during each visit, I could have perceived the city in a million different ways. The city itself was and is neutral until we attach our thoughts.
My mind was blown when I really began to embrace this concept. You mean I could think about everything in my life ANY way I wanted to, and do it on purpose?
Every time I’m coached, I’m reminded that the answer to that question is a resounding YES.
My kids don’t make me crazy?
Mom jeans are cool?
Being woken up at 4:00am every Monday morning doesn’t suck?
Listening to my husband floss isn’t the most annoying sound I’ve EVER HEARD?
Yep. All thoughts are choices made in the mind.
So why should that REALLY matter to you?
You create your experience of life through your thoughts.
And I’ve experienced big parts of my life through the lens of negative thinking.
Knowing and understanding the correlation between the two, (thoughts and experiences) has opened space for me to change.
And changing my thoughts on purpose has lead to creating a life that feels so much better.
Less anxiety. Less overwhelm. Less frustration. Less drama.
More fun. More focused. More calm. More confident.
Managing your mind is the ultimate form of empowerment because you are 100% in charge of it.